Let’s just get this out up front: I prefer peace, but sometimes, achieving peace requires a good right hook.
I’d like to say everyone in life will be nice, fair and moral. And while most people will try, there are those few that will be jerks and continually interfere with your peace of mind. Some parents might suggest you wuss out, wait it out or just avoid the situation altogether. In contrast, having learned the hard way, I will always tell you to stand up for yourself and not let low-functioning people have a say in your happiness. I think a passive approach leads to resentment, passive aggression, manipulation, etc. that just perpetuates the problem, whereas facing things head on puts everything on the table and gets it over with faster. You may never agree with the other person, but you'll show them you’re a force to be reckoned with and if they’re looking for a victim, they better look somewhere else.
I hope your life is easier than mine- I hope that people are better to you and just do what is right, but if they don’t, I want you to know what to do. Be peaceful, be empathetic and see all sides, but if someone is taking advantage of you, harassing you or stealing your joy, you may have to tape up, get your "feisty" on and take a few swings to protect yourself. Do what it takes to reclaim your personal power….just be smart about it.
Finally, because I know your attention span is waning, I want to make sure you understand I mean all this figuratively, not literally. No punching people in the face or the back of the head, etc., and certainly no punching each other—that’ll just get you grounded.
Love,
Mom
very well said...Love it!
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